March 5, 2013
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Week Five
I realize more and more how isolated I have been. Internet is all fun and games and great people like yourselves but that doesn't make up for the lack of connection with other humans.
It is odd for me in the inner-healing class being that all the other women in the class are either married or know other ladies in the class. So I end up sitting alone and not really able to enter conversations as they are about things I have not been involved in. But there are 2 ladies that seem to want to reach out and talk with me. They take time to chat a little bit. Like all conversations I have had recently someone else comes up and the edges me out.
I feel invisible again.
This is just frustrating and causes me to want to leave, not only leave but not come back. I have related this to the group and they all insist that I don't leave, but if my own feelings of being invisible to the group, the group that is supposed to listen to me, advise me and generally support me, then I need to go to another group.
Sadly, it has been so long since i really had a person to talk to so I am filled with wanting to talk and talk and talk more than I ever have been.
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Sorry to hear that the other ladies in the group all know each other and sort of edge you out. I had no idea there were support groups that could help you with things like that. You should visit with me and Shiro, we would talk your ear off!
Sail on... sail on!!!
I can see you
All the same, it's frustrating when that happens. In a similar situation I'd walk. It does get hard though, and I get so tired of walking 
peace
I don't feel a close connection with people online always...sometimes, its like watching a fireplace without the warmth. We all are made to relate to others and, a year and a half, I chose to withdraw from most and it was excruciatingly painful. I don't know how you got in this group, but I hope it is helping.
Finally, in my isolation, I started slowly to go back to relate to the group. With some people, I felt totally welcome..and with others, not so much.
It's been a long rode back, these 1 and a half years, but slowly I am feeling a part of life again. Even the pain of feeling separate from others reminds me that I am still alive.
My closest friend moved 3 hrs away several years ago to help her parents. I still can call her, but the close bond we had has loosened a bit.
I pray that you don't give up..that you keep going forward.. It gets better, I promise.
I'm thinking of going to another small group, too, just so that I can feel more closely connected.. I'm looking fwd to that day.
It's been a slow climb out of a deep and dark well.
Wishing you good things...and company...and glimpses of happiness yet to come.
Christy
If you go to another group, you'll still be there. The fact is you'd probably find the same people in the other group too. Oh, they'd have different names and faces, but they'd do the same things and, unless you break through, you'll do the same things. I shut up now and go back to my self-imposed exile.
I understand what you mean Karen . This is perhaps because you have been caught during a long time by your familial occupations and also the modern life doesn't make the socialistion easy.VHEN WE CROSS THE VILLAGES OR TOWN NOWADAYS STREETS ARE EMPTY . EVERYONE IS AT HOME WATCHING TV OR AT THE COMPUTER ;
I am part of a choir and also rather active in the church . You have to deal with others and it is not always easy for a independant man like me . But I make effort and this helps . The gardening allows also relation with other gardeners sbut there are less and less numerous
So you are right to want to make relations in that group and also in various associations ( not too much, however.
Love
Michel )
I have been in such a group. The only encouragement I can give you is to hang in there. Make sure that if someone interrupts and edges you out to let them know you are not done speaking. Then say what you need to say. Perserverance can sometimes bring out painful emotions, but you can work through them. Blessings abound
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